In my writings and the comments I receive from them, I have discovered that too often people are making judgments on the things they have no experience with, but rather only hear say information. It is with that knowledge or inspiration, that I have often wrote my articles in a way to better educate those who do live a life sheltered from the truth. Please, do not take offense to that, for all of us are shelter from some truths. We cannot truly know all there is about anything unless we experience it first had or have some dealings with it. For years I told people, I don't like raw oysters, truth is, I have never tried raw oysters. So my judgment of them are purely based off of what others have describe to me. That is not a fair assumption.
Many people on here comment about the corruption that homosexuals bring to society, yet they have had no direct dealings with a homosexual. They have never sat down and opened their mind to a conversation with one. In all things that are new to you, you should sit down with a blank canvas, willing to learn and not with predetermined judgment based off of what is often time fabricated informaiton.
With that in mind, over the holidays I was able to spend time with two mothers at two different times. These two mothers both have lesbian daughters, but they have never met each other. They know of the other, but have never had a formal introduction or even so much as laid eyes on each other. Society has argued that homosexuals are either gay due to choices or a product of their environment. If that is true then a theory that must be tested to prove that would be the parents and who they are as people. If two mothers raised two lesbians then the theory of the enviroment would suggest that the two lesbians had similar childhoods and similar parents.
Lets look first at the first mother, we will call her "Karen". Karen had a miscarriage at age 22, but found out that she was carrying twins, one twin survived and was carried to full term. She had a baby girl, which would be her only child. When the child turn two, the mother divorced the child's biological father. The father moved out of state hundreds of miles away and had little to do with the child. The father later claimed that he had tired to have interaction with the child, but eventually thought it best that he not. The mother would remarry within six months of the divorce. She did not attend church, but she felt her child should be raised attending one, so she had her mother, the child's grandmother take the child to church every Sunday, a tradition that would continue until the child turned 18. At no point in time during those years did the mother attend church with her child. From the age of two to seven the child and mother were subjected to repeated beatings from the new man of the house, the mother's second husband. The child was also rapped. The beating included the child's head being slammed into a table saw, nose shoved into a porcelain bowl, lashing from a belt on naked skin until she bleed and the list goes on. At age seven he died of cancer. Once again within six months the mother was dating again, and she dated multiple men and on several occasions the men would live with the mother and her child. One man showed traits of being a repeat of the abuse that the late step father showed. He pointed a gun at the mother and even blindly fired a gun into a bed room that the child would have normally been staying it, but that night was not. The mother was dating a second man during this time as well, one which was for the most part good to them. At eight years old, the daughter tells the mother, she can chose the violent man if she wished, but she would go live with the kind man. It was at that time the mother made her decision and stopped seeing the man who fired the gun. The mother would eventually marry this man several years later and is still married to me today. The mother lives her live secluded to only her family, having eight siblings, her social life is limited to the family. She rarely leaves her home and does not understand the need for a social life beyond ones family. The day her daughter told her that she was gay, her initial reaction was calm, but within 24 hours she was on her knees in prayer asking God to save her lost daughter from the sinful path she had chosen. A mother, having not attended church not one day with her daughter suddenly became engulfed in the Bible, and convinced herself that her daughter was doomed to hell. An opinion she shared with her daughter repeatedly. She refused any and all help to her daughter, even when she heard her daughter had attempted suicide. She felt any help she gave her would lead to her own damnation.
Now, the second mother, we will call her "Rachel". Rachel married a military man, the first and only man she ever dated. The are still married to this day. She was the mother of three girls. The youngest child she was told was going to be a boy, but when she gave birth, she held in her hands a beautiful girl. Rachel has never drank a drop, except for on one occasion when she took down some whiskey to help with her cough, she recalls the even to this day and says, "never again." She attends church regularly, she reads inspiration books all the time and is a faithful Christian. Her youngest daughter came to her and told her that she is gay. Not pleased, but understanding that she is her daughter. She expressed as much to her. The daughter moved away and got involved in a long term relationship of nearly five years. During that time they did not speak of her romantic life, but her and her girlfriend were welcome to all the family events such as holidays. When her daughter broke up with the girl, and had her heart broken, her mother reached out to her. They talked, they talked about her heart break, the romance, the love. She doesn't like her daughter being gay, but she understands it is what it is and her daughters heart was broken. She was there for her. Her daughter moved back home with her. A few months passed and the daughter met someone else. The mother did not hesitate. She wanted to get to know her daughter's girlfriend. She went and did things with the couple, the girlfriend was invited to family events, she even called the girlfriend to go do things with her when her daughter was working. She wanted to know the person that was important to her daughter. Still attending church daily, and with a clear conscious of her soul being saved, not condemned for her actions. This Christmas many of the extended family came to her house. When they went to take a family photo, there stood her three daughters, one son in law, the father, and the girlfriend stood off to the side. The mothers stopped everyone, called out to the girlfriend and said, "this is a family photo, get over here." A room full of her extended family, she made a statement, this is my daughter, this is who she loves and so we love her too.
So there you have it. Two very different environments, yet both have a lesbian in their family. Karen is aware of the existence of Rachel, she is aware of her acceptance, but without having ever met her she has said, "Just because sinful and trashy people accept that fifth doesn't mean I will." She has no knowledge of them as people, she has no real knowledge of who her daughter is either. Meanwhile, Rachel is not only getting to spend time with her daughter, be part of her life, but is also being a positive influence to both her daughter and her girlfriend.